Winfred, who now prefers to be called Fred, is a transgender man from Uganda.
Born and raised in a deeply conservative and religious environment, Fred’s life was shaped by societal and familial rejection of his true identity. Despite Uganda’s harsh stance on LGBTQ+ individuals, Fred held firmly to his beliefs and identity, knowing that living authentically was the only way forward.
Fred’s struggles escalated when his parents refused to accept his identity, forcing him into a marriage with a man. This union became a living nightmare, marred by constant abuse, imprisonment, and violence.
Despite enduring immense suffering, Fred bore children in this relationship. He loves his children dearly and struggles with the thought of explaining his journey to them, though he remains hopeful that, in time, they will understand and accept him.
In the summer of last year, Fred made the courageous decision to flee Uganda in search of freedom and safety, eventually seeking refuge in Denmark — a country celebrated for its progressive values and acceptance of LGBTQ+ individuals.
For over a year, Fred has lived in a remote town in Denmark, attempting to rebuild his life. However, isolation has made it difficult for him to connect with others, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community.
Occasional trips to Copenhagen, where the LGBTQ+ population is larger and more active, have offered Fred brief moments of connection and hope.
Unfortunately, these trips have proven to be costly, and Fred believes that relocating permanently to Copenhagen would greatly enhance his chances of finding love, companionship, and a supportive community. Such a move, he feels, would help him overcome the trauma and fear he still carries from his past experiences in Uganda.
Fred’s journey is not just about seeking acceptance for himself. He has a strong desire to reach out to others who share similar struggles, particularly within the Ugandan and broader African communities. Using social media as his platform, Fred aims to connect, inspire, and advocate for those who feel marginalized and silenced.
His ultimate dream is to settle in Denmark, find stability, and continue his personal growth. Fred hopes to share his story with his children one day, taking them through his journey with honesty and love. He envisions a future where they, too, can see his resilience, courage, and unwavering pursuit of freedom as a testament to living one’s truth.
By Fred Nakimbugwe